How to Talk to Me After I’m Gone by Alexandra Chauran

Parting with a loved one is never easy. The pain of separation brought about by death is, however, made slightly easier if your spiritual philosophy allows for a belief in such concepts as karma, reincarnation and life after death.

For some religious traditions, such as the Spiritualist Church, the process of re-connecting with a loved one after their demise is comparatively easy. But, for most of us, there are no specific procedures for communicating between the worlds of life and death.

What if it was possible to actually prepare yourself for a continued relationship with any member of your family once you reach the ‘otherside’?

Alexandra Chauran is a second generation psychic intuitive who has a great deal more experience dealing with death and the bereaved than most of us. She also has a wealth of knowledge on how to make contact with the spirits.

In How to Talk to Me After I’m Gone: Creating a Plan for Spirit Communication, she writes candidly about her experience facing death as well as her professional work caring for the terminally ill while working in the University of Washington’s Medical Center as a chaplain (someone who has to confront the grief of others on a daily basis).

She describes how, in this role, she often has to be present, along with close friends and relations of terminally-ill patients, when their life-support machine is turned off.

She describes how, on these occasions, she is often aware of the presence of the spirit of the deceased patient as it leaves the physical body and travels to the higher realms.

Awareness of the sense of deep separation that results from the death of an individual and the resultant sense of loss, confusion and disorientation that it creates in the bereaved caused the author to question whether or not it might be possible to establish a pre-established set of protocols for continuing a relationship with a loved one after their death.

Is it healthy to continue a relationship in such a way? And, if so, what are the advantages?

Chauron tackles this subject by identifying specific examples of why a discarnate person might want to maintain some level of communication with their family and friends. The main reason that they appear to wish to do so is so that they can help the surviving members of the family in both a pastoral and practical sense.

Chauran reveals several methods that she personally advocates a reader takes in honoring the departed. One of these is an Ancestor Altar or dedicated area in the home for the placing of objects of family or sentimental value.

Another is the use of a shrine or other form of dedicated acknowledgement of a person’s or pet’s past life.

After looking at the subject of spontaneous apparition by the dead as ghosts, the author then explores some of the methods for initiating contact with the departed.

She includes practical techniques for invoking spirits, praying and contact through dreams and meditation.

Other powerful techniques include divination and dowsing, bibliomania (consulting the Bible for advice and guidance) and spirit boards.

The most popular approach to Spirit communication, séances, is also covered along with practical advice on how to successfully and safely perform such spirit readings.

In the later chapters, Chauran investigates the subject of religious faith and the concepts of life after death held by various faiths.

Faith, so the author believes, is a vital component of understanding spirit communication so she includes guidelines for establishing what she refers to as a ‘Personal Statement of Faith’. This is a way of clarifying your position on the subject.

How to Talk to Me After I’m Gone closes with specific guidance on formulating a workbook or plan for subsequent generations to follow, should they wish to make contact with you after your death. You can use this to establish keywords that will act as triggers to authenticate contact, methods of inter communication, regularity of contact and the most appropriate times following death to make contact.

The book closes with a final commentary on the nature of death and the process of facing her own demise.

It includes a list of helpful websites you should reference if you want further insights into the various subjects covered.


Every so often, a book arrives at our office for review that completely knocks us sideways!

It may be that the publication is particularly well-written, is totally unique in its subject matter or is wholly-uplifting or moving in some way.

How to Talk to Me After I’m Gone by Alexandra Chauran fulfills every one of these criteria.

It is a powerfully moving, extra-ordinarily insightful commentary on how to communicate with the deceased and is one of those books that carries an immense feeling of heightened spiritual energy.

Maybe, it is no co-incidence that the book emerged into the author’s consciousness via a dream!

Of course, maintaining contact with ancestral fore-fathers with the communities of strongly-bonded social group, such as those found within the Meso-American indigenous tribes, is not uncommon.

It is, however, virtually unheard of here in the West, where we have no Shamanic tradition to reference when attempting to establish contact with the spirits of those who have passed on before us.

This is a major short-coming in our society and so it is with a particular sense of wonderment that we found Alexandra Chauran’s book offers the opportunity to empower yourself with specific advice on how to take the necessary actions that can greatly benefit those that we leave behind when we depart this world.

This is not, however, a comfortable book to read.

It crosses several lines of accepted, commonly-held beliefs.

Indeed, as a book, it openly invites you to challenge many of society’s assumptions about death and the way that we deal with the subject. It also requires you to have a hefty dose of inner emotional strength in dealing with some of the information given as well as an open-mind regarding some of its insights—but aren’t those criteria the necessary pre-requisites of a truly enlightening and informative book?

How to Talk to Me After I’m Gone is written from a non-religious perspective but it does carry the essence of the author’s own spiritual beliefs as a follower of the Goddess.

This under-current adds greatly to the book’s depth and richness as well as offering an important reference point when understanding some of Chauron’s deeper philosophical ideas.

All in all, very few books touch all the bases—and we are happy to say that this is most definitely one of them!

Alexandra Chauran has crafted a publication that should resonate with all of us. While it draws tears of raw emotion from its reader, it also gifts us with a cascading rainbow of light, love and personal healing. A very rare thing in a book!